1 YEAR TOGETHER...

one year ago on a sunny saturday i married peter, and still more amazing than
that - he married me. 

now, one year later, today is our first anniversary and like many events in life you relish, it feels like our wedding day was just last month, i remember it so vividly.  

this year has been the most incredible year of my life...

even this year was full of beautiful moments, i have to admit: first year of marriage was hard. very hard. not because we'd made a mistake, not because i regretted the decision, not because i wanted out. even though i was sure we'd chosen right and wanted in – it was still hard.

we may have been in love, but we hadn't yet begun to learn how to love one another well. we hadn't yet begun to learn that beyond the declarations of love and commitment comes the daily study of learning what your spouse likes, and deeper than that – how your spouse thinks.

i cried. a lot. tears of frustration. tears of pain. tears of despair...

there was no particular problem that made it hard. it wasn’t that we were mismatched. it was more just that it was painful to figure out the changes. i think the most honest thing i'm able to say about that first year is that it was a "big adjustment". and it has to be!

 

imagine, that you are a student, who gets the chance to spent a year in a foreign country, for example japan... you prepare as best you could but still experience culture shock upon arrival. japan is not slovakia. everything seems different: the money, the people, the food, everything.
getting married is like moving to a foreign country. you will experience some culture shock. you and your husband won't always speak the same language.
your first year of married life might be one of the most difficult you'll ever face. it takes time to adjust to your new "culture". in time, the shock will wear off, and you'll begin to feel at home. you'll even forget what life was like in your "old country"! :)


a new marriage is much like a newly planted garden. it has great potential for the future if it is well cared for. just as a garden grows, so can a marriage relationship. it can start with excitement, happiness, joy and anticipation. with time, marriage can bring satisfaction, peace, comfort, contentment and pride.

peter, you are my everything...
every day our marriage becomes more special, with every passing moment i find you more adorable. every day seems to bring more and more happiness, and memories that are priceless. every day i thank my fate for giving you as my husband. men like you are quite a few these days. you are amazing, you are handsome, you care about me so much. our marriage has been a roller coaster ride, in which you have always held me tightly...

i am lucky to be your wife.
happy anniversary!